A Bold Move: South African Woman Confronts Her Mother-In-Law On TikTok

Holifil

31 Mar, 2025

A South African woman took a bold step to address her strained relationship with her mother-in-law.
Realizing the tension, the new makoti decided to share her thoughts on TikTok, sparking a conversation.
Social media users rallied behind her, resulting in a thread filled with 855 supportive comments.

Starting a new chapter in life by joining a new family can feel like stepping into uncharted territory. You're suddenly expected to adapt to unfamiliar traditions and build relationships with people you barely know. It’s not easy, especially when it comes to navigating the tricky waters of family dynamics.

A woman stood her ground and clarified her stance on her marriage. Image: @nwabisamalotana5 Source: TikTok

Let’s face it—out of all the family members, the mother-in-law often gets the reputation of being the toughest to please. Whether it's real or perceived, this dynamic can create tension right from the start. And that’s exactly what happened in this story.

Mom vs. Makoti: A TikTok Revelation

Stories about difficult mother-in-laws are as common as they are dramatic. Just think about the popular South African soap opera Skeem Saam, where the husband’s mom gave the new wife a hard time. It’s almost like a universal theme that resonates with many couples. But here’s the twist: this time, the makoti didn’t stay silent. A Xhosa woman opened up about her rocky relationship with her "monster-in-law," and her words hit hard:

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“I may not be the daughter-in-law she envisioned, but I’m the woman he chose. Maybe I don’t fit the mold she had in mind for him, and that’s perfectly okay. I respect her as my husband’s mother, but I can’t waste my days chasing her approval. I wasn’t chosen to meet her expectations—I was chosen because of the love, trust, and partnership I share with him.”

“My job isn’t to be perfect for her. It’s to be the woman who loves him, supports him, and walks through life with him. At the end of the day, I might not be the daughter-in-law she wanted, but I’m the woman he chose, and that’s what truly matters.”

Her message wasn’t just cathartic for her—it also gave others permission to speak up. By sharing her truth, she created a safe space for women everywhere to voice their struggles.

Take a moment to watch her TikTok video below:

A woman called out her mother-in-law in a TikTok post. Image: @nwabisamalotana5 Source: TikTok

Mzansi Reacts: Standing With the Makoti

A woman shared her complicated relationship with her mother-in-law. Image: @nwabisamalotana5 Source: TikTok

The internet community couldn’t help but jump into the conversation. Hundreds of comments flooded the thread, with users expressing solidarity and sharing their own experiences:

@EndyN Ludidi commented:

“In-laws will hate you for no reason. I always prayed that I wouldn’t marry a guy with a sister, and God answered my prayers. But the extended family? That’s a whole different ball game.”

@Pam said:

“This is why I constantly ask God to bless me with a husband who’s an orphan and has no siblings, especially sisters. Life is hard enough without adding that drama.”

@Katleho💋: shared:

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“I made it my mission to disappoint her from day one. I let her know I’m lazy, spoiled, and hate hard labor. Guess what? She loves me just the way I am.”

@duchie🍒 pointed out:

“I’m so proud of you for not letting her attitude affect how you feel about yourself or your marriage. Too many makotis start doubting themselves because of certain family members. You’re doing great, girl!”